Joe’s lounge

A Said:

I was wondering that this morning. I live alone with my two dogs and my children are 1800 miles away. I know my neighbors casually but since they have jobs, no one sees me regularly. My sister emails me sometimes but she’s busy with her own life, again many hundreds of miles away. I go to church sometimes but not regularly enough so that anyone knows me.

I think it would be many days, if not weeks, before someone discovered I died. What about you? Would someone discover your body right away or would it lie there for a long time, like mine?

B Said:

Don’t be so dark,don’t you have anyone who’d call you on a regular basis?
I know for sure I’d get a call from my work the same day,they’d call back the next day but I have no idea how long it would take someone to go and check on me. I have good friends but they are out of town often and we don’t see each other every week. My mom would very worried if I didn’t call her for a long time but she’s in another country…All and all,I’d be probably decomposing by then

A replied B:

I don’t mind the dying, I just worry about my dogs.

I lost my job the first of the year, I’m okay with that but it eliminates people that would wonder where I am. So I, like you, would probably lay there for a long while!

C Said:

If I was to die in the immediate future I would be discovered straight away as all my family are around me. I really do not know what would happen when they are older, I often joke and say I would be one of those that would be left undiscovered for some time!!

A replied C:

I don’t mind not being discovered, it would just be sad for my family to know that my body lay there for so long before being discovered. I worry about my dogs, too. I’m glad you’d not be left to rot!

D Said:

I’ve never thought about this. My husband works away from home a month at a time so it would probably be my daughter that would discover me should I pass away at home while he is gone. She and I speak daily and work together at the same place so as soon as she didn’t hear from me or I failed to show up for work she would know something is wrong.

A replied D:

That’s comforting, I’ll bet.

It must be hard to have your husband away for that long. When I was married and the children were very small, my ex worked that way and it was difficult for me, I missed him so much. You have your daughter to keep you company, though. I hope he keeps his job and prospers!

E Said:

I, too, live alone with my two dogs & a cat! My son (28) insists upon calling me every morning between 6:45 & 7:00 a.m. and every evening by 8 p.m.! He is NOT a Mommy’s boy, but is chagrined by the barriers of us being apart! He just needs to complete his morning by knowing that his Mother is happy & healthy! We are the very best of friends (hard to believe, I know) and have the best discussions in the world, on all topics! Thanks for asking, as it reassured me of how lucky I am!

A replied E:

Oh, what a wonderful son! I understand your saying he’s not a mommy’s boy–one of my sons calls twice a week and we have wonderful conversations about every subject on earth. He would be devastated if I died, but he wouldn’t know for a long time, he would just figure I was out somewhere.

You are blessed to have such a son and I’m glad I could remind you of it.  We are often wealthy in ways that have nothing to do with money but are much more precious.

E replied A:

I am so pleased to hear that you, like me, have this wonderful bond, with your son!(I just finished talking to him.) Sadly, he is the product of a broken marraige, but the rule that I kept, throughout the disparity, was to NEVER disrespect his father, or in any manner demean him! This seemed to have closed the ranks, and allowed my son to really respect me! I must admit, tho, that I do tend to spoil him, and I think that’s my right….as I was never able to spoil him for a long time! 1800 miles away is far, far away…do you get to see your son often?

Just an aside, my son bought me this computer for Xmas 2 years ago! I am 61 and this was my first introduction to the cyber world, so still am a neophyte! But he insisted on Live Messenger, video camera & mic…so that he can see, as well as hear that I am fine! Thank you, thank you….I am recounting my blessings!

F Said:

I have thought often about this recently.
I too live alone. My cat died almost one year ago and up until then had anything happened to me his hunger calls would have been cause for neighbours to wonder if anything was wrong inside. That is no the case now.
My son lives only 10 minutes from me but we are as we are both busy we tend not to be in touch daily. If I call him and he does not answer his phone I presume he is busy and call back later and he would do likewise
I have jobs which do not need me to be in physically present every day so colleagues would not realise I was missing immediately.
I have online friends who realise I was absent and indeed my sister who lives in USA (I am in Italy) would start to wonder if I did not answer her calls.
Bearing all this in mind it could be anything up to a week before I was found. Grim thought and maybe I ought to rectify this situation so that it could never happen. I guess this is one of the negative aspects of progress

A replied F:

I need to make a list of my online accounts and passwords, and my bank accounts and stuff so that it’s easy for my children to close things out.

I have often wanted to visit Italy, it looks so beautiful in pictures and movies and the people seem to be very friendly. You are lucky to live near your son!

F replied A:

Yes I have informed my son where he can find the most important list of things that would need dealing with under those circumstances.

I came to Italy in 1975 for a two week holiday - and stayed!
The people and the climate were the main reasons why I didn’t go back home to UK and I have never regretted my choice ever

G Said:

Actually, I went to a funeral yesterday for a man who died at home and was not discovered until days later. I did not know him, he was a friend of my husband’s. I think he had a son.
If I died at home, I would be discovered within hours, my husband is home most of the time when he does not have any appointments.
Before I got married nine years ago, I would say, it would probably be days before I was discovered.
I talk to my mother, but I do not think she would panick if she called and I was not home. Maybe after two or three days she would probably become concerned.
We seem to have problems with our telephones whenever it rains a lot, so she may think that something was wrong with the phone if she did not get an answer

H Said:

It wouldn’t take long at all, my only thing is I would hate to have my children find me and since they get home first they would. We also have a 2 year old and I cant even imagine something like that happening and her here with me while I was dead.

My one daughter also calls a few times a day so she would wonder what is up if I didn’t answer after awhile.

Even when they are all gone I still have hubby that would find me and a best friend that after a day or so would start worrying.

So as it wouldn’t take long I just don’t like the outcome of any of them..lol