Well, guests are nuisance when they go beyond the line. I mean I have never liked unwanted guests. I do not feel at ease when there are outsiders, I mean the guest at home. I have to change my ways of actions, do this, do that, war an artificial smile all the while and what not. I have to act in the way that does not displease them.
Specially I hate guests when they rush into with kids and pets and settle for a week or so.
How about you? What is your take on unwanted guests?
please share.

B Said:

I’ve never had that kind of unwanted guests. If someone were to come to my house to spend a week with PETS, especially, without asking, they’d be shown the door. I don’t allow pets in my house, not even mine or my kids (who are grown). The only guests I have that might spend a week is my grandkids during the summer. They spend many weeks during the summer, going home for the weekends. They come over to ride their 4 and 3 wheelers, play pool in the basement, and help Papa do the yard work to earn cash.

C Said:

I don’t understand why you would have unwanted guests in your home. Do you mean that someone else in your home has invited them, but you don’t want them there?

A replied to C:

No not exactly like that. By unwanted guests I wanted to mean the people who are our acquaintance but are not matching type of so far their stay at my home.

Now as they come down you can not drive them out, therefore unwanted.

Thanks for responding.

D Said:

Hi! I know how you feel! I don’t like being forced to
be nice to people that I really don’t want staying in my home
either! I would assume that these must be relatives or people
that for some reason you are being forced to have to be nice
to for some reasons! It is an imposition at best and at worse
annoying! But, there are times in our lives that we have to
just bit down and to what needs to be done even it does mean
being just a bit put out! So if whatever the reason is that
you are trying to be kind it will be over with before you
know it and you can have your home back again!

E Said:

I think that all guests should be announced before arriving. It makes me very uncomfortable to have guests that just pop-in. I don’t do that to others and I don’t want it done to me. If they let me know ahead of time, I enjoy the company but I don’t like to be surprised.

F Said:

That means I can show up to visit with my hubby and 4 kids and 2 grandkids and the neighbours dog and you will just sit and smile???
Well I must tell you that there is nothing phoney about me at all. My house is my home and I will act the same whether there are guests or not. I am who I am, like it or not. If someone decided to stay that I didnt want there, I would politely tell them they had to leave. I do not tolerate disrespectful people or those who take advantage. In fact if anyone invited me to stay for a week at their house, i wouldnt stay, I would stay at a hotel first. I dont like to make bad friends and we all have different ways of doing things. So I have no unwanted guest..only the odd fly!

G Said:

Just before to this discussion, you have started one is that guyes are not learning new new things.

Here you are saying that you don’t like unwanted guest but do you know that ancient Indian people always said, Guests are like God and they never said that they dont’ like unwanted guest.

I too believe that guests are like God but at the same time I am not a true believer in God too!

H Said:

We all have guests from time to time and same way we have to be guest from time to time too… i really dont like when mom takes away my room and give it to guest and i have to share room of my sister till then. The guests would misuse all my things in my room and would look in to things what i have and if possible someone would even try to go through drawers of my study table thinking they might find something like a juicy letter from some guy or something. but some guest are fun too.. they don’t interfere much and always happy to help in home and try to not make themselves too much burden.

I Said:

Hmmmm. Unwanted guests? I recall only one in nearly 60 years of life. Kids that were brats and homeless mom that didn’t know how to take care of them. Now that was a bother. But usually fate has sifted them into your life for a time for a reason and it is all good. Life brings people in and out of our lives for a reason and we can’t get all grumpy and feel put upon.

J Said:

My family has had a series of guests residing with them temporarily since we returned home after hurricane Katrina. We have added on to the house and I now have a sort of little apartment all to myself but it is only partially completed so I still go into the main house to cook and wash and so forth. Recently my brother arrived with 3 kids.

I am sure you know what it is like when your home is not child proof and suddenly it is full of kids. The other day my 6 year old niece slammed the back door so hard that a shelf I put up in the bathroom came crashing down with a vase full of water and flowers!

There are just some times you want to have peace and quiet without visitors or having to entertain or accomodate or excuse and so forth — like the end of the work day!

K Said:

when i was still with my family i used to just do what i had always done: either go out to work or stay in my room resting. nothing changes even with guests. i had my own life that i just pass by the guests and give them a little smile. no way am i going to let myself be pressured by people who just happen to need a place to stay.

I think it would really be a tough question if you would only be given one choice to choose from. I think it would prefer brains more. I think some people would get turned off even how beautiful a person is knowing that the person doesnt have brains. I think i could bare just having brains alone because i know that people doesn’t only get attracted to the physical appearance of a person but they get attracted more to his/her character/personality. I have watched some beauty contest and sometimes i observed some contestants to be attractive but i think they mostly get challenged to the question and answer portion because that is usually the part of the contest where a most of them fail.
I think it would really be nice to have both if it would be possible. hehe. But i think having brains isn’t really that hard because i believe geniuses are either born or made.
How about you?
Do you agree with this too?
Which would you prefer to have? Beauty or Brains? ..

B Said:

I too would rather have brains than beauty for beauty only last so long for we tend to age. I would rather be a genius, for you could help humankind. I would love to be able to be so smart that I could cure Alzheimer, AIDS & Cancer. I have seen the horror of Alzheimer & AIDS & it is a horrible way to get sick & die.

A replied to B:

That’s really true, you could really do a lot with brains. I think beauty could only go as far as it looks but with brains the sky is the limit with what you could do. You could do lots of things to help people and you could even do something that would change the world. That’s really a very nice point of view you got.
Thanks for sharing.

C Said:

Brain. I may look only beautiful for beauty but soon will be looking ugly without brain. But brain will bring out inner beauty and change people’s perspective toward me.

A replied to C:

I also believe so, what is beauty without brains. They say that beauty is skin deep but i think beauty is not only something that we only see from the outside but i think its the wholeness of the person that makes the person beautiful.

D Said:

If it would be possible to have both, why not?:-), but if i were to choose between the two i would rather have brains than beauty. Beauty is not for a lifetime but being a brainer is and besides there is a saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so it means that we are all beautiful in our unique ways. Beauty i think is not so important when choosing someone, whether in a competition or anything else.:-)

A replied to D:

I think so too, beauty is not only what we see outside. But each person has his/her own definition of beauty, what may be beautiful to one person might no be beautiful to another. We have our own definition of what is beautiful and there is no standard way of measuring beauty.

E Said:

Definitely Brains! Beauty fades!
When I was younger, I used to hang out with this girl who was super smart. I always wanted to be like her…she wasn’t pretty but I didn’t care. She was so intelligent and always had the answer to everything. She’d always tell me that out of all her friends, I was the prettiest. I’d thank her but deep down I wanted to trade what I had for her brains. Same thing with some other girls I hung out with…they’d say I was the prettiest in the group but that would always make me feel awkward. I’d rather be told I was the smartest in the group! I had (have) low self esteem so I’ve never seen myself as pretty and I guess you can say I ain’t the smartest cookie on the block but I’ve got a decent brain but I sure wish I were smarter!
I never went out with a guy because he was cute. I always gravitated towards guys who were brainy. Same thing with my friends…all brainy. Maybe deep down I was just hoping some of it would rub off on me!

A replied to E:

Thats really cute and a bit funny. hehe. I think you could also learn lots of things just being with smart people. I think i would also be thinking of the same thing if i were in your place. hehe. I think smart people are really fun to be with and they could just think of much things and at the same time there are lots of things for us also to learn from them. How i wish i were also smart but too bad i think i dont have both. hehe. Anyways, i would still prefer to have brains rather than beauty as most of you would also prefer.

F Said:

I would look for brains . It is because people who have brains look
much more smarter and attractive than beauties. The inner beauty is more
important than the outer appearance. But people are rated nowadays rated by their looks.

A replied to F:

I think so too, people nowadays have become too focused on the outer beauty. The would undergo almost all kinds of beauty treatments and surgery just to enhance their outer beauty. Its just so that that there are times that people would just to almost anything just to improve their physical appearance,. People nowadays are much concerned of how they look as compared to any other things. I think that is the trend nowadays.

G Said:

if i can have the best of both worlds then that would be great so great in fact. but since you prefer choosing just one then i would go for the majority and that is to have brains, lots of it in fact
yes, it’ll be a big turn off if someone posses beautiful features mainly on what only the eyes can see. it’ll be more attractive if being beautiful is having lots of brain. sense of humor counts to me more than having flawless white skin and jaw dropping curves.
i am fortunate to have met women that posses both worlds, one is my bestfriend (though, she had no brains when it comes to relationship haha, well that’s being in love, also being irrational!), and the other is my fiance, wit and beauty (though she is stubborn and crazy at times )…and i couldn’t ask for more.

A replied to G:

Same here, i am very fortunate to meet the woman of my life who actually have both. Well, i would usually say that she is perfect but i think she doesn’t see that. But i think that is really true, she actually has both beauty and brains and she also is a very nice person. Well, i’m just so lucky to have someone like her in my life and i couldn’t even ask for more because she is more that enough for me.

H Said:

Hi there,
Really its a tough call if only provided one option to select between beauty and brain. If i am in such a situation, to be frank i don’t know what i will do, but what i think is like, beauty is something which is needed only in the initial part, once we get closer to someone then the personality and character takes over the game. So, basically character and personality is the fact that will be binding us to someone else, but for that particular strong bond of relation, mostly we need an attraction which beauty will provide. Beauty is always in the eyes of the viewer.

I Said:

Hi Friend,
I also would go to brain because I have seen some live examples in my life. I have Two Uncles, one married to a very beautyfull lady of his choice but what I feel is she is not ontelligent enough to sit in a group, sometime my uncle feel awkward when she speaks unintelligently, she spends more on her beauty and eating out rather on education and care of children, on the other hand another uncle married to lady of his choice as well but she jus look a normal lady of neighbour but she is intelligent enough, she helps uncle in his work, she takes care of her chidren well and do whatever possible for their health. I think above example is enough for that..

J Said:

First i will disagree having brains doesnt make anyone genius .Ok!! You just use them on exceptional level people can turn into geniuses but its just gifted .
secondly i d go for people with looks and brains,its not that hard to find .Is it Beauty can never stay so its useless and you ll get angry with the person at most times cause they are too dumb to get you,also that some people might have brains but they talk like GEEKS and thats annoying .Really i mean cmon you can talk normal or what,why cant they like songs like normal people do,Surely we are pretty much good in studies doesnt mean we have to be all geeky and nerdy.So the answer is still pending,as its not about the brains or beauties but the way there personality reflects

K Said:

I would prefer to have beauty. Whenever the world comes across a beautiful lady it becomes somewhat mesmerized, it starts eating out of her hand and her every wish is their command. Nobody bothers any more if the lady has brains or not, if she has a college degree or not, not even her family and any other background. She is just a luminous object which everybody likes to stare at and admire. AND she gets to make a lot of money and other facilities too, by dint of her face. But a brainy woman does not have it so easy. First of all, she has to prove that she has brains (and that’s easier said than done) and even after that, she has to face all round jealously and hostility which is an added disadvantage. Most people are usually against a woman who is really brainy and smart

L Said:

Hello,

Most of my male friends tell me that it turns them off when such a pretty face turns out to be not-so-smart.

I would rather have brains. I think, to a great extent, intelligence can truly make a person, or a woman, particularly—more appealing and absolutely interesting.

However, I do not agree with you that geniuses are either born or made. Some people are born smart, while others are hard working, but there is a difference between the two.

It would be fun to have both, as you have said. It can be nice to let people know that you are more than just a pretty face. However, beauty and brains seldom go together. That is a sad fact. Lol.

Have a great day!

In China, compulsory education, adult education, and professional education have been established and carried out well. But what is education for? What is the purpose of education?

Is it to provide students with the true sense of life, a value system and a set of ideas?

Is it to equip students with the power of knowledge and skills for specific jobs?

Is it to guarantee each student a large income and high social position?

Is it to prepare students to glorify themselves and their families?

So, what is education for in your opinion? And what do you want to get from education?

B Said:

education is for and is a lot of things those that you stated and so much more, i wish i payed more attention in school, my sister “my youngest one” is the smartest out of the bunch prolly cuz she learned what not to do but the 3 oldest of us kids i have 3 sisters so im the only son..but education teaches you a lot of stuff, with out education we wouldnt have what we have today or if we did it wouldnt be nearly as good like today could still be like the 60’s if it wasnt for education..or even the 1920’s..because education shapes ideals and ideals are what makes the person and the person is what makes the future happen.

C Said:

Ever, education was the best way to change the destiny for the poor in China. But now, something seems to have been chenged. The school expenses are more and more expensive, and there are more and more college students. When they graduate, they will find there isn’t enough work chance for them.
Even though, I still think that education can help us find a job for living.

A replied to C:

Education was ever the best way to change the destiny for the poor in China but now it is different. I can’t agree more with you on this point.

And the tuition for schooling is becoming much more higher than before. We invest a lot of money, time, energy and hard work to education, but we won’t get the guarantee that we will find a good job in the future. What we have invested will not be equal to what we will get. It is not worth the candle, isn’t?

The people without receiving any education can also find a job for living even much better than the people who has got a lot of education. How shall we explain that?

D said:

the purpose of education is different in different situations:for a person it maybe to get good job, lead a good life and have respect in society. for nation it is to turn as many people in useful workers as she can, as it is essential for progress and without education it is not possible.
education not only ment for what we think going schools etc. if some person knows to stitch carpet it is aslo a education and must be praised. We should aslo develop such education and encourge people having this

A replied to D:

Education is important both for the country and every single one. And we want to achieve a lot of goals through education, but have we really fulfilled our objectives as we planned?

Everyone konws that education is vital, but how and what we should do to develop the functions and benefits of education in the highest degree?

The education we are taking now is not efficient. It is a great waste of time, money, energy and life. It is not satisfactory.

E Said:

The education is to teach the students the information they need to be taught so they can have the general knowledge to manage in life,and later on to pursue a career.Not every student is a perfect one but weather they want to or not they learn information that is very useful in the near future.Also,in an environment with many people that interact students develop their communicating skills.Overall education is nothing but useful for those who embrace it.

F replied to E:

Before that is also my idea to give us general information of life but in my country, i don’t think it’s true. Do you know that in the Philippines those rich people are under graduate, some are actually elementary graduate. I think the wheel to success is how much you want/badly want it. I see this training, you just think positive, know your goals, make action plan and do what is in your action plan. Then think about the values why you want to have it. is it because you love yourself, or you want to be powerful, trust that you can do it and being responsible about your life.
Another thing, here in the philippines, you will see a lot of professional working abroad as a caregiver or maids. I don’t have anything against it but tell me, do you need to be a college graduate for you to be a responsible care giver or house maids. Actually those people are earning more than what the professional are earning here in the philippines.

G replied to E:

Education is about passing on knowledge not about making money. Some people may be able to use the knowledge they have to gain money but that is not the purpose of education.

The way our society works you need money to be able to afford higher level education and you need higher level education to get high paying jobs. It is much easier for wealth to make more wealth than for a poor person to become wealthy.

The capitalists like to claim that anyone can become wealthy through hard work but it is really a myth. It is very rare for someone to make a great deal of money from nothing in a single lifetime. However, none of that has anything to do with the purpose of education. People do not need education to make money.

A replied to E:

Education is not the prerequisite for us to make money. We may be able to use the education we acquired from school to earn money, but making money is not the purpose of education. The purpose of education is to pass on knowledge. If this is true, what is the purpose of passing knowledge? Do we only want to get the knowledge from receiving education? What is the final purpose of education? No matter what it would be, it cannot be passing knowledge!

The people without education can also make money and education is not necessary for making money. But this point is not enough to be an evidence against the point that making money is one of the purposes of education.

H Said:

When I read at your choices, truly it is all of the above…education provides social, psychological, moral, economic, cultural satisfaction…that’s why education is compulsory and mandated by the state. It’s known to elevate people’s social and economic position. Education liberates us; for some it is ticket to poverty alleviation.

I Said:

education is just for personal understanding of knowledge.. in fact, the power of knowledge enable you to overcome the barriers in your real life.. Well, indeed, with higher education, it could have chance to earn higher salary.. well for me, education is just to ensure i hv better chance in order to get a job.. sometimes we need to face the reality.. it could be good or bad,, but that would be better than nothing..

J Said:

The purpose of education is to pass on knowledge. Before we had formal education people passed on their knowledge to their children or to apprentices. This knowledge can be used to gain employment but not all of it is directly related to work.

Work is about practice and education is about theory as well as practice. The theory is needed just as much as the practice but some is simple enough to learn on the job and some is so complex that it may not even relate to practice. Higher level maths is like this and yet it is necessary for many practical studies like engineering adn science.

Education is certainly not about glory, income or social position. In fact teachers are often under appreciated and under paid. People may use the knowledge they gain to achieve those things but that is more a matter of the nature of the society they live in and how they use their knowledge. It is not the purpose of education.

K said:

For individual, education is to build up critical thinking skill so that we can discern right and wrong.
As a country, the government has a much broader strategy for educating the whole population. All kinds of talents are needed in a country to make it strong and competitive.
I can’t imagine any country becoming a world super power if all the people do not know how to read and write.

L replied to K:

Are you doing your thesis on the value of education? If you are, focus on the big picture.
I already stated in my post, the value of education from the standpoint of the country is to build up the country.
You may like to elaborate from this main point, talking about the value of educating the young people for 15 years and the economic and social benefits to the country.

M Said:

I sometimes wonder the same thing. I hav a degree in communications and trust me I feel no different from the layman on the street. I mean I am educated but yet i am not living better than the worst of us. I am barely finding my way around any way so whats the point of education. In the job market someone with less ucation canget the job over me, due to links and contacts. So again I have to ask,whats the point?

what do you think of all these?

In the early morning the mind is fresh and it is fine to have such a freshness. So, we can do much work in the early morning when compared to evening. There is perfect calm in the early morning. We are not distracted by noise and bustle and we have lot of problems. So, we can easily concentrate our attention on what we are doing.Henceforth it is decided to have such issues than that of anything. If we get up in the early morning, we can finish our work in good time. We can go to bed before midnight and enjoy sound sleep.
If we rise early we can take some physical exercise as well as better air in the fresh morning air. This exercise will improve our health and supply us with a fund of energy that will enable us to do our work during day and it also gives you wonderful respiration forever.

B Said:

What you said is all perfectly true. Unfortunately, I myself am not a morning person, so waking up in the morning is really difficult for me, even though I have to since I have school and all that. It is a lot more refreshing to do stuff in the morning though, and even I can’t really sleep in that much because I get a severe headache if I sleep more than I’m supposed to. So to answer your question, yes I do rise early in the morning every day, but sometimes it’s against my own will and I would much rather sleep an extra half hour or something.

C Said:

hi there,,
well i wake up early in the morning as i have a habit of going to gym daily so for that i need to wake up early in the morning earlier i used to do yoga in the morning and gym in evening but now as im employed so i havent got free time in the evening so i wake up early in the morning and go to gym,,,,,and you are right buddy that morning is the best time for excersice also we get fresh air,,,,,,i think everybody should devote sometime towars his/her physique also

D Said:

Hi frnd, Yes, i will rise early morning day.When iam wakeup from sleep in the early morning my mind will be very fresh,cool and pleasant day.My morning day starts with a freshness and successful day.I will do early morning meditation.Doing meditation is very good and our concentration,mind power will increase more.
Be happy.

E Said:

Yes most of the days i rise up early in the morning.There are times when i sleep late at bights.Those times i will get up late.It is good to see the sun rising and hear the sound of birds.also the air in the environment is cool and fresh.I read the bible and the newspaper daily in the morning.

F Said:

yes i do get up early in the morning, except when i dont really feel well. I like to woke up early because i dont feel like i need to rush my work. Not lots of pressure compare when i started the work late. I dont go want to office late, so from monday to friday, i really wake up 6am, do 30 minute of exercise and take a bath, so i am ready to work 7 30, my time at office is 8:15, and i only walk from home to office. During saturdays, i woke up 530, and go to park for a jog, during sundays, i woke up at 6am to start all the household chores. After all household chores are done, i take a rest and pamper myself and have a time to read books too:)
yes i do still have time to do arts, write and update my scrapbook

G Said:

I know that mornings are perfect time for doing things. I personally prefer getting up early morning but unfortunately my body is not fond of the idea. I’m not a morning person, and many people are. The are early birds as they call them and there the other type (can’t remember what they call them).
Cuz I have children I HAVE to wake up early in the morning to get ready sending them to preschool ( KG 1 and KG2 are not optional here, its compulsory, otherwise I’d rather keep them at home with me). I drive them to school and come back and sleep until like 11 am, and then we wake up with my youngest daughter and spend some time like playing, coloring etc. From around 11 I feel much better than in the morning. I tried changing the schedule and it still doesn’t work.

H Said:

I definitely believe that an early riser is much brighter and fresher.There are advantages to rising early just like you have pointed out.Add to it the simple fact that an early riser gets so many more hours a day than one who rises late.So the potential to put the extra time to good use can reap benefits in life.Cheers!

I love music. Somtimes i listen to a mix of every kind of music…usually i do this when my brain is scattered and I am in an everything mood. Then thier are the times when I cant make up my mind…so i listen to parts and pieces of songs. I try to do

this when nodody’s around it tends to drive people crazy!Then i will sometimes listen to specific types and genres of music when I am feeling a certain emotion. Or certain songs when I am thinking of certain people.

But no matter what is going on in life music is an esacpe…I time when you can clear your mind if need be….or you can use the musci to fill your head of memories and feeling that you want. I love music i believe it can be very healing.

Do you agree, how does music impact your life if at all.

B Said:

Hi…I am a music person. Music is my life since the age of 3. Am teaching music to non examination students who just want to learn for leisure. And yes I agree that music has healing properties but depends on what kind of music. Those heavy metal and rock stuff ain’t gonna bring any healing but more damage. Instrumental music is a great help.

C Said:

Yes music is healing to the mind and body.I listen to music when i feel alone and lonely.I also sing with the music to improve my singing skills.When i am with full of energy i listen to dance and club tracks.I also listen to rock music sometimes.I listen to music on long boring journeys to pass time.

D Said:

Music can affect our moods. What it does is entrain our brains to make us more positive. When our outlook and way of thinking are healthy, the body will be healthy as well. Therefore, I believe that music can play an important role in healing. It can help us in performing self-healing on ourselves which will include both the outside and the inside of our person.

E Said:

I think music can be very healing. It can be energizing, it can lift the mood, it can reflect your mood, and it can fuel internal fires. I like just about every kind of music but I can’t stand music that fuels hate not matter what the genre.

F Said:

I have have to agree with you there, I love music although I mainly listen to Heavy Metal I still love listening to Blues, Reggae, Country anything really except techno and R&B and gansta Rap. The thing I love about music is that it can give you energy when you need it there is a different genre for every mood when you’re feeling happy, angry, sad or whatever Music will make you on top form again and ready to take on the world. I also think that playing guitar has the same effect aswell music I think can also make you think about a whole lotta things and therefore it can make you smarter. But you Music is also an Opinion. Anyways Yes I agree Music can be very healing!!!

G Said:

Yup! I agree with you because I personally have experienced it before and I don’t mind to share it with mylotters. Classical makes you calm when you are heated and the best time to listen when you are reading books or relaxing yourself. Rock music makes me want to sing and I get my energy from them which may make me active when I’m down. There are more, I don’t think it is best for me to write a lengthy experiences here. Happy Mylotting.

Would you risk trying unfamiliar yet affordable brands of toiletries so that you can save on your budget since the more popular brands are a lot more expensive? I grew up with the habit to stick with the more known brands since they are suppose to have more quality than other brands, but since I got married, I find myself more willing to try other brands so that I can get more out of my budget. Is it really true? Do the other brands really have less quality just because they are just new in the industry? Would you be willing to try out new brands?

B Said:

Obviously you live here in the US and have fallen prey to gullible advertising. From toothpaste to body wash, simply flip the container over and compare ingredients. A lot of no-name brands arent new in the industry, they just dont blow a bunch of cash on advertising, packaging, nice smell, pretty color, etc that also drive the cost of said product up. Especially in bathroom type products, using the pharmacy brand is BETTER than the big names because the pharmacy (equate, walgreens, etc) have more money for research, which makes the product more effective.

C Said:

I wouldn’t mind if the brands looked presentable enough,not like liquid hand soap that you have to pour from the bottle and stuff like that. Might also depend on where the brands come from, for example,something can be cheap here but quite popular in it’s country of origin. I like french make -up Bourjois, they seldom sell it here but I’ve seen it a couple of times in discounted stores and in my country it’s considered rather shick and expensive

D Said:

I use lesser known brands all the time and save a lot of money that way. Some of them I even like better than the popular brands.

For example I buy this cheap four cheese spaghetti sauce that costs me about $1.00. and I really like it. The same amount of spaghetti sauce int the more recognized brands cost three to four times as much.

It’s a matter of trial and error finding what you like just as it would be choosing between two or more major brands of the same item.

E Said:

One thing that I learned in one of my business classes is to look up at the shelves above your head and at the shelves at floor level. The most expensive brands are always at eye level.

I do try less expensive brands of cleaners and toiletries. I discovered a wonderful pine cleaner at Wal Mart that is better than the Lysol pine cleaner. The off brand is 97 cents while the Lysol is over $2!

I don’t do it too much with my food stuffs except for things like pasta, rice, pinto beans etc. I go to the bulk food stores as much as possible for that stuff. But for margarine, mayo and other stuff I go with brand but hopefully it’s stuff on sale.

I don’t think that other brands have less quality for the most part, I do usually read labels before I try them out.

F Said:

If you can judge the quality of the product then you can go for unfamiliar brands. Otherwise you may face problems than comfort. I dont agree that big brands with higher price are having good quality than the unfamiliar cheaper brands. The price may be less due to the the company is keeping lesser margin. Manufacturing cost me less. Advertisement charges also effect when it comes to price of the product. So judge the quality of the product and buy. That is worth.

G Said:

well,i think the excellent quality and reasonable price is the most important.and your choose.how to make the better ways in your shopping,it’s depend on the time added.we called that experience,the experiences in lives you know.no matter what brand.you have use it and feel it better.so,make a choice friend.you will have a good day.

H Said:

Yes, I can try them out. I don’t think there’s much harm, I mean I have tried many things like that, some I have like some I haven’t. Say for instance there’s a new shampoo or soap which is quite cheap and can be purchased in small sample quantities. I would always go for them and continue using if I find them good. But if I have to buy a monthly quantity, then maybe I would not go for untried products. I do this for food too…just yesterday while at the supermarket, I saw a new unbranded fish finger which was being sold by weight and not the entire packet. Well for the three of us, I bought about 10 fingers which was a lot cheaper than the entire branded packet. It was yummy to say the least, and I have switched loyalty…I am all for it and thankful that I tried it out.

I Said:

I am from Pakistan, and chain smoker. Here every year the government announces its; budget in the month of June. So month before and after that cigeretes are getting short for this time period. Because many retailers stock the cigeretes and after the budget when the prices rises they sold them at new rates so during this time I use the other brands for smoking.

J Said:

That always happens to me. I would never by an unknown brand fearing that it may not be good. The reason why this happens is because of all the advertisements that we see each day. These advertisements have a drastic impact on our mental thinking. But some of these other brands are just as good. It’s just that they do not have much reputation since these previous brands are taking all of the customers. So these other brands tend to lower their prices in an attempt to get costumers. But I don’t believe that all of them have less quality. It’s just that when I buy them I feel a little weird because no one is really buying them. And I’m looking around and realizing that I’m the only one. It makes you feel to buy the normal expensive stuff. lol. But no those other brands are good or at least some of them. The only problem is how are we gonna find the cheap, good brands and not the cheap poor brands. That would give you a headache.

K Said:

Like you i also tend to stick with brands i know to ensure i have the good quality stuff. When i’m tight with money it drives me to seek cheaper brands and sometimes i find their quality is good which then made me switch brands. I think you got to be more willing to try things to get the good ones.

L Said:

Sure, I’m always up for trying new things! Especially when it could potentially save me money! I look at it this way: nothing ventured, nothing gained.

You have to try something to see if you like it. Sometimes you get lucky and discover a cheaper item is just as good as the more expensive one. Sometimes, you just can’t make the compromise.

In my house, shower gel is whatever is cheap. But we can’t make compromises on toilet tissue. This is true all over the house! I tried cheap diapers, but found I was going thru more of them because they were poor quality, so I didn’t save any money. In the kitchen, we buy the expensive storage bags to freeze meat, but the store brand ones are fine for packing lunches, snacks and storing dry things.

M Said:

we always buy the store brand and have done so even before buying the store brand was cool! you would be suprised that most of the store brands are made by the same people that make the higher priced brands…so you are paying for the name!

N Said:

Trying different brands is quite good but please be very careful. Other brands especially the new ones are not that safe. It would be better if you will stick the brands which you have trusted for many years. Although you can save a lot for the affordable ones, you will still doubt if it’s really good or safe. In terms of toiletries, I do really try the affordable ones. There are lots of good quality toiletries yet so affordable. In terms of foods or medicines, I go with the branded ones. It’s beacuse I feel that they are really safe.

O Said:

In my opinion, i do find the big names have a slightly higher quality compared to unknow brands. However, I really don’t mind trying other brands as the the savings does make up quite a difference. As long as the stuff does not cause side effects, i am ready to buy it again. So what i do is on and off i will buy the branded stuff to give myself a treat.

P Said:

Just recently, I was “forced” to try out a newer brand of USB memory things…you stick them into your USB to store information and data. Well, I bought one from Le Target for $5 USD 9128 MB) and it’s really cute and colourful. I wanted to buy more because it wasn’t storing as much as I wanted. When I went to Wal-Mart, I found a new company that sold 2GB worth of cards. It was the same price as the other one but held so much more! I was quite pleased. It’s called the “DataTraveler” made by Kingston. So, that’s my money’s worth.

So, there are things I would be willing to save money for and buy cheaper brands, but things like bacon, toilet paper and such, I will pay more for the better quality.

Last time i wanna write is the very last day of 2008, you know, to sum up what had happened or what i’ve done, what i’ve accomplished in 2008, but i didn’t write that post. 2008 means a lot to me: i graduated from college; the very first job in my life; those sleepless nights worried about where to go, what to do, i can still remember those songs i listened during the three months of job searching, and i still have feelings while listening to these songs, feeling of sad, feeling of hopeless.

Shouldn’t these all be remembered? Coz, as the process of a man’s  life, what he thought, how he acted would have profound effect on his future, and they also serves as the evidence of a man’s growing: Nothing unless we do something.

Don’t know how our company’s plan for lunar new year, probably i would have only three days holiday, a day for returning home, a day for coming back, only one day staying at home. And this would be a The First too, the first time in my life only have three days holiday for lunar new year. Because of this, some promises would sold down the river, like student reunion, party, relative visiting, and i remember i have a big box filled with books, the day i left school, i mailed it to one of my friends in my county, and still have no chance to get it back for almost 6 months.

Sorry then, see what i can do.

I was wondering that this morning. I live alone with my two dogs and my children are 1800 miles away. I know my neighbors casually but since they have jobs, no one sees me regularly. My sister emails me sometimes but she’s busy with her own life, again many hundreds of miles away. I go to church sometimes but not regularly enough so that anyone knows me.

I think it would be many days, if not weeks, before someone discovered I died. What about you? Would someone discover your body right away or would it lie there for a long time, like mine?

B Said:

Don’t be so dark,don’t you have anyone who’d call you on a regular basis?
I know for sure I’d get a call from my work the same day,they’d call back the next day but I have no idea how long it would take someone to go and check on me. I have good friends but they are out of town often and we don’t see each other every week. My mom would very worried if I didn’t call her for a long time but she’s in another country…All and all,I’d be probably decomposing by then

A replied B:

I don’t mind the dying, I just worry about my dogs.

I lost my job the first of the year, I’m okay with that but it eliminates people that would wonder where I am. So I, like you, would probably lay there for a long while!

C Said:

If I was to die in the immediate future I would be discovered straight away as all my family are around me. I really do not know what would happen when they are older, I often joke and say I would be one of those that would be left undiscovered for some time!!

A replied C:

I don’t mind not being discovered, it would just be sad for my family to know that my body lay there for so long before being discovered. I worry about my dogs, too. I’m glad you’d not be left to rot!

D Said:

I’ve never thought about this. My husband works away from home a month at a time so it would probably be my daughter that would discover me should I pass away at home while he is gone. She and I speak daily and work together at the same place so as soon as she didn’t hear from me or I failed to show up for work she would know something is wrong.

A replied D:

That’s comforting, I’ll bet.

It must be hard to have your husband away for that long. When I was married and the children were very small, my ex worked that way and it was difficult for me, I missed him so much. You have your daughter to keep you company, though. I hope he keeps his job and prospers!

E Said:

I, too, live alone with my two dogs & a cat! My son (28) insists upon calling me every morning between 6:45 & 7:00 a.m. and every evening by 8 p.m.! He is NOT a Mommy’s boy, but is chagrined by the barriers of us being apart! He just needs to complete his morning by knowing that his Mother is happy & healthy! We are the very best of friends (hard to believe, I know) and have the best discussions in the world, on all topics! Thanks for asking, as it reassured me of how lucky I am!

A replied E:

Oh, what a wonderful son! I understand your saying he’s not a mommy’s boy–one of my sons calls twice a week and we have wonderful conversations about every subject on earth. He would be devastated if I died, but he wouldn’t know for a long time, he would just figure I was out somewhere.

You are blessed to have such a son and I’m glad I could remind you of it.  We are often wealthy in ways that have nothing to do with money but are much more precious.

E replied A:

I am so pleased to hear that you, like me, have this wonderful bond, with your son!(I just finished talking to him.) Sadly, he is the product of a broken marraige, but the rule that I kept, throughout the disparity, was to NEVER disrespect his father, or in any manner demean him! This seemed to have closed the ranks, and allowed my son to really respect me! I must admit, tho, that I do tend to spoil him, and I think that’s my right….as I was never able to spoil him for a long time! 1800 miles away is far, far away…do you get to see your son often?

Just an aside, my son bought me this computer for Xmas 2 years ago! I am 61 and this was my first introduction to the cyber world, so still am a neophyte! But he insisted on Live Messenger, video camera & mic…so that he can see, as well as hear that I am fine! Thank you, thank you….I am recounting my blessings!

F Said:

I have thought often about this recently.
I too live alone. My cat died almost one year ago and up until then had anything happened to me his hunger calls would have been cause for neighbours to wonder if anything was wrong inside. That is no the case now.
My son lives only 10 minutes from me but we are as we are both busy we tend not to be in touch daily. If I call him and he does not answer his phone I presume he is busy and call back later and he would do likewise
I have jobs which do not need me to be in physically present every day so colleagues would not realise I was missing immediately.
I have online friends who realise I was absent and indeed my sister who lives in USA (I am in Italy) would start to wonder if I did not answer her calls.
Bearing all this in mind it could be anything up to a week before I was found. Grim thought and maybe I ought to rectify this situation so that it could never happen. I guess this is one of the negative aspects of progress

A replied F:

I need to make a list of my online accounts and passwords, and my bank accounts and stuff so that it’s easy for my children to close things out.

I have often wanted to visit Italy, it looks so beautiful in pictures and movies and the people seem to be very friendly. You are lucky to live near your son!

F replied A:

Yes I have informed my son where he can find the most important list of things that would need dealing with under those circumstances.

I came to Italy in 1975 for a two week holiday - and stayed!
The people and the climate were the main reasons why I didn’t go back home to UK and I have never regretted my choice ever

G Said:

Actually, I went to a funeral yesterday for a man who died at home and was not discovered until days later. I did not know him, he was a friend of my husband’s. I think he had a son.
If I died at home, I would be discovered within hours, my husband is home most of the time when he does not have any appointments.
Before I got married nine years ago, I would say, it would probably be days before I was discovered.
I talk to my mother, but I do not think she would panick if she called and I was not home. Maybe after two or three days she would probably become concerned.
We seem to have problems with our telephones whenever it rains a lot, so she may think that something was wrong with the phone if she did not get an answer

H Said:

It wouldn’t take long at all, my only thing is I would hate to have my children find me and since they get home first they would. We also have a 2 year old and I cant even imagine something like that happening and her here with me while I was dead.

My one daughter also calls a few times a day so she would wonder what is up if I didn’t answer after awhile.

Even when they are all gone I still have hubby that would find me and a best friend that after a day or so would start worrying.

So as it wouldn’t take long I just don’t like the outcome of any of them..lol

Ive started a certain discussion in which somebody does not like me or my discussion and disagrees with me strongly, but with language I would not like to use, like you make me sick, or puke etc. I usually tend to ignore such comments and go on, for each is entitled to their opinion. However there are ways and ways to disagree without going dirty. I strongly want to write back and tell them so, but it will only create an open war of words and I dont want mylot to become a sounding board for words of war. So I feel I should let go. Have I done right? What would be your reaction to such phrases?

B Said:

I actually think you did the right. It was good of you to let it go. You would just play right into their hand if you stooped down to that person’s level and started replying with similar comments. It would just drag everything and make things more unpleasant. People like that should be ignored.

I haven’t had to deal with something like that on here but I dealt with a somewhat similar situation at work the other day. Some girl decided to attack me verbally for no reason at all. She was causing quite a scene too. I was very, very pissed off and so badly wanted to tell her off but refrained from doing so. I wasn’t going to lower myself and have a shouting match with some immature teenager.

A replied B:

Thanks for your support and advice. I really feel bad when people can stoop so low. This is a forum for the family and as such people should refrain from such words where little children can read. You also did the right thing in not getting into a slanging match with her, but then she should not take this as your weakness. You can firmly and softly tell her off. Cheers.

C Said:

Better ignore the person than spend your time thinking about it. So what if he/she felt that way to you? You don’t know him/her anyway. You’re here for earnings, for friends and discussions so don’t be bother with just one person. I also have encountered one too when I responded to a discussion and he gave comment there saying I am gold diggers or filipina are gold diggers but I just ignored him and that’s the end of the story. From then I tried to avoid him and avoid all his discussions.

A replied C:

I know there are some mean persons on this forum who cannot accept that discussions are meant to be healthy without going into mud slanging. That man must be a lout to say such things. Good you ingnored him. All the best.

D Said:

You’ve done the right thing dear. Yes, there are too many in here who are just closed-minded. You cannot please everybody. Mylot is a community and its purpose is to make it grow by rewarding its members through their efforts. However, there are members here that I really cannot delineate why they have to be defensive on discussions or on topics that you never intend to be offensive.

It’s playing on my mind that if a certain topic is offensive to you, why bother responding to it, right? There are members here who can’t control their temper when in fact everyone have the opportunity to choose a topic to respond on that truly interests them…Some times, that situation isn’t happening. You really can’t control other people’s mind. That is why, MYLOT should do something about it and be discreet.

I have encountered people who made provoking words or response to my discussions. I wanted to ignore it most of the time. But, we are just human, we also want to defend ourselves. Once or twice, I had to comment on their response still in a nice way. Worse, when I checked on the profile of those who made a provoking response to my discussion, i found out that he/she belongs to my friends list. Too bad really…Am hoping after my comment, he/she would realize that the discussion was just a topic that is something to discuss on and not intended to offend someone. Am also hoping that he/she would not rate me in the negative because I have not done wrong.

Am in GOOD FAITH that every discussion I make is not intended to offend anybody…Surely, the same as you are.

A replied D:

As you so rightly said, one can choose discussions and topics, so why answer discussions which turn you purple. I mean there are ways and ways of putting it without being personal. Actually, the funny part is after this discussion my rating increased to 10. Well, the rating does not matter so much as hurting a person, just because you dont agree with them. Discussions are like debates, where one has to put in the pros and cons of it and that too nicely. Ive never yet hurt anybody on mylot nor will I ever. If I dont like a topic, I ignore it rather than hurt somebody. Thanks a lot for all the courage and strength I get from you mylotters. Im blessed with your friendship.

 E Said:

Just let go and ignore it. I think that’s the best way to get back at those people. People who have the tendency to start disagreements about somebody else’s discussions can only be either 1 or all of 4 things: 1)they don’t understand what the whole discussion is about; 2)they have nothing better to say or contribute; 3)they get a kick out of making others feel upset; or 4)they are just plain RUDE.

If the same thing happens to me, I’d probably say something short in response and that’s it. Or maybe not at all and I’ll just go on and ignore the person and keep on ignoring the person. The first respondent hit the nail right n the head when she said they aren’t worth the time. There are a lot of better things to do here at myLot than argue or debate with senseless beings.

F Said:

As far as I am concerned, yes, you have done right.

The words one uses in communication is also a proof of one’s education, upbringing, breeding, environment, emotional depth, mental acuity, etc. Words of war actually imply total failure of the foregoing.

I go by former US President Teddy Roosevelt’s dictum: “Speak softly but carry a big stick.”

As a personal rule, when I get communications that I find less than wholesome, I write a response that tries to clarify and elaborate about the issue/s concerned. Another rule is that I edit such response at least 3 times. This helps clear the air and prevents further conflagration.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/28364813

I saw this on the news a few days ago but couldn’t find the link to share here. I’ve finally found it. This young lady’s Mom swears the angel saved her daughter’s life. The angel is ONLY visible on the security video even though a few hospital personnel indicated they felt the presence of something that day. This is one of those miracles that I pray is for real!!! Do you believe that angels can come back to take care of those of us in real need???

B said:

I don’t know exactly about angels, although I’ve read different things where we all have our “spirit guides” from the moment we’re born to help us in our life. They aren’t supposed to interfere, but I guess in dire circumstances can help us. Some cultures (like Native American) believe the spirits of our ancestors help us and are always around us. Some who are “sensitive” can actually sense and communicate with their spirit guides all the time, while the rest of us can’t.

I had one incident in my own life that is one of those…mmm…moments. Years and years ago I was crossing the street (large intersection)—the light was changing against me, but still had enough time to cross..so I thought. All of a sudden a car comes careening down full speed ahead…and I froze! I couldn’t move and I now understand why animals are hit. Any minute this car was going to run smack into me and the driver didn’t seem to slow down. Then all of a sudden I felt this gigantic push from behind me, shoving me out of the way to safety. When I looked around to see who had pushed me out of the way…no one there! So someone or something obviously helped me that day

C replied B:

Spirit guiders and angels are exactly the same. They don’t have wings.
We are talking about spirits that are here to guide and protect. The wings are very symbolic, because they are free to move….
I was saved few times in similar way…I guess it wasn’t our time…
Happy to see you around…
HUGS
hope your Christmas is good…

D said:

YES! i believe in angels! i, too, experienced their presence and they definitely guard and guide us throughout our life. i want to share my experience with you, so that you will believe and i am telling the truth you know.

when i was in sixth grade, i ate a lot of unriped mango fruit with salt and vinegar on it so that it would make it more delicious. i ate a lot right after our class and then we went home with my father. when i arrived at our house, i was kinda feel dizzy and not feel good, and so, i went to the kitchen to drink a glass of water, when suddenly, my eyesight went white and shut out, and eventually, i was unconscious at that very moment. after how many seconds, i heard a voice crying and crying and trying to wake me up and its like that voice was crying out for help or what, when i heard it, i regained my consciousness and was lying on the floor, with my head aching (i guess due to falling on the ground) and was trying to see if there are people around the kitchen, but there was none! i wondered whoever was it and i asked my father if he went to the kitchen at that time, but he said no. and that made me realize, it was my guardian angel, trying to wake me up, crying and save my life right that very moment.

E said:

I don’t believe in angles. We ususally tend to think that angels will come to help us when we are in danger or in trouble. But the fact is angels don’t exist at all. I’m suffering a lot miseries this year, and I’ve been fancing that the angel might appear sometimes to help me get through this. I kept waiting and expecting, only to find that I’m still in trouble.

F replied E:

Yes, angels are very real, and the Bible speaks of them as “ministers for” the heirs of salvation.

The reason so many don’t believe is because they either CHOOSE not to believe in them, or don’t know how to develop their faith.

Spirit guides are not necessairly ‘good, just because they guide you - where? and towards what?

Spirit guides are a part of the new age movement, and that is an area I avoid due to it’s very unscriptural beliefs, and teachings.

We don’t always have the priviledge of seeing them, but that does not make them unreal.

G said:

Many of us think of ANGELS white and with wings.

I dont know but Im sure they are there, they help us and guide us, We wont know this until time is ready like many things we dont understand here on earth,

I posted last week that I went to Tasmania to trace my Family Tree.
I looked at this cottage for a week as I did with all the housing there,
I felt warm, I felt safe when I was near this Cottage, It was a week later I found this was the house(cottage) my Great great Auntie and GG Uncle had built and lived in the mid 1800’s, Where they had 9 children.

I can say from this, the House, the spirits were in contact with me, I dont understand it all, But with this I do know I will see them when I go thru the Vail of Human death and enter the Spirit life of our death.

powerful stuff, I know

H said:

I honestly can’t say that I believed in or did not believe in angels, but I saw that report on FOX News, and it sure perked me up.

I would LOVE to believe that someone or something is watching over me and caring about my welfare. But where do angels “come back” from? Does God send them, or do they know their job well enough that they simply “jump in” when needed?

Where were they on the day that my Mother died? Out to lunch? On a field trip? Looking for other work?

Yes, it would be nice to believe, but since those angels didn’t think that my Mother’s life was important enough to intervene … or my brother’s, for that matter, it must be a selective group that they cater to.

I’m not a fan of anyone or anything that is selective.

Memo to self: A light? Sure. An angel? I doubt it. If it were, they would have turned their head for a better profile. “I’m ready for my close-up, Mr. DeMille.”